Note: This piece originally published as an oped on the San Fransisco Gate website.
With the release of the feature film Spotlight, attention is once again being focused on the Catholic Church's flawed response to sexual abuse. However it's important to use the attention the film is generating to shine some light on male victims of sexual abuse.. In virtually every community (both religious and secular) the sexual victimization of boys and men remains vastly under-reported a
Mattieu Ricard is an amazing thinker whose work inspires me. Recently I've been reading his new book: Altruism: The Power of Compassion to Change Yourself and the World. The book is a rich source of inspiration and hope for the work I do every day as an advocate for survivors of abuse and trauma. In the wake of the devastating attacks in Paris that occurred not 24 hours ago, I went back to review the parts I've highlighted. I came across this quote which seems of special impo
There are a lot of articles that attempt to explain how men can be better lovers, better husbands, or better boyfriends. And of course there is no shortage of advice online telling men what it is that women really want – my web search for this last topic returned nearly 1 Billion results in less than half a second. Becoming a better man is a noble goal, but marriages and relationships involve more than one person. If we are truly invested in creating and fostering healthy rel
Fighting to take the gloves off (aka - another post on the darker days of surviving).... I’ve been healing for a long time. One thing I have come to learn is that, no matter how far we feel we have come, sometimes we have a day that just comes up and punches us in the gut. Today is one of those days for me. sometimes we have a day that just comes up and punches us in the gut. Today is one of those days for me There’s a lot going on at the moment. First and foremost my house i